Motivation By JC Deen Share Tweet Yea, I said it. Even those of us who know a thing or two about this fitness game fail miserably when it comes time to coach ourselves. One might believe a fitness professional or even an avid enthusiast possesses enough knowledge to develop a sound training program and a proper diet to propel them toward their goals. It’s a nice thought, but it’s not always true. Most of us have the knowledge – we know what it takes to get stronger, build muscle, lose fat, or whatever you’re trying to do in a practical manner. The problem, though, lies in the way we approach ourselves as opposed to others. To open, I’d like to cover a question I recently received from a long-time reader: “Dear JC, Friends always come to me for nutrition and training advice and I always give them great advice, but I can never apply it to my own life! Why is that?” My response: ”This is the most common issue with those of us fitness folk “in the know” simply because for some weird reason, we somehow believe we are above the rules. However, both you and I know we’re not. And guess what? Even I slip every now and then. Thusly, when I do, I turn my training over to someone else for guidance – and it always works out.” And here is the deal – none of us are perfect. We surely aren’t always objective about our decisions we make about our fitness routine, the food we eat, or our emotions associated with those choices. And it’s true. About 6-8 weeks before shooting my first video for JCDFitness (feel free to watch below), I was worn out, tired of training and hardly progressing. So what did I do? I turned everything over to my brother-from-another-mother, Steve (who is a strength coach and training coordinator at a gym here in Nashville) and followed his rules, instead of mine. I began to blossom again. Strength was increasing and my workouts were now effective. No second-guessing my approach and none of that changing-workouts-every-other-week BS we often succumb to when we fail to be objective. I’ve thought a lot about this aspect of personal fitness and why even the seasoned veteran sometimes sucks at keeping themselves in check. In fact, I’ve called upon a few friends and industry professionals to help me out with their thoughts on the matter. I think you’ll wholly enjoy their commentary. First up, we have my dear friend, Alan Aragon’s response to the initial question: ‘Friends always come to me for nutrition and training advice and I always give them great advice, but I can never apply it to my own life! Why is that?’ “I think that in this context, someone not applying themselves in a way they think they should means that they just don’t want it badly enough. The desire and motivation is insufficient. There are many possible reasons for a lack of motivation, but one of the most common ones is the perception that your own habits are “okay” or “passable”. Contrast that with a guy whose daily routine involves smoking 2 packs of cigarettes, downing a liter of coke during the work shift, and downing a bottle of hard liquor after work. At various points, that person might think – holy shit – I gotta clean up my act. But the thought dissipates, and nothing changes. On his next doctor visit, the doc tells him flat-out that he may not live to see his kids graduate high school if he keeps up his habits. This might flip the switch of motivation to clean up his act. Or maybe not – sometimes it takes the scare of a heart attack to flip the switch & force someone out of his comfort zone. The person giving the health advice but isn’t able to follow it is still nestled in his comfort zone.” Alan Aragon – www.alanaragon.com Next up we have John Romaniello with his response: “The real answer is proximity bias: that fact of the matter is, you’re too close to the project–the project being your body, diet and training. It’s often hard to take your own advice seriously. The same things happen with friends and especially family. Your mom may ask you for training advice, but does she take it? No. She goes back to doing the same yoga-cardio hybrid she read in a gossip magazine. Why is this? Well, simply, because someone who knew you when you were in diapers–before you had ANY level of knowledge–has a hard time viewing you as an authority. Even if this person consciously appreciates your insight, on a deeper, subconscious level, they don’t feel any real impetus to listen you. The same thing applies to you, yourself. The only person who’s known you longer than your mom is YOU. And so even though you can dish out advice, sometimes your subconscious residual self image–that is, your view of yourself and specifically who you USED to be–is so strong that it supersedes your conscious belief in your own advice. Alternatively, when we meet a trainer or coach for the first time, that’s all we know of them–that they are a trainer of coach. That immediately places them in a different category. You never think about what your trainer was like when he was 5. You never stop to think about all the idiocy they got into in high school. The only thing you think about is the results you’ve seen them get with their client, how confident they are in their abilities, and perhaps how impressed you are with both their physique and their level of knowledge. In short, you view them as an authority, and nothing but an authority. Which means you are by far more likely to listen to their advice than your own–even if you know some of it to be wrong. It’s a strange little phenomenon, but we humans are, after all, strange little creatures.” John Romaniello – www.romanfitnesssystems.com And finally, my partner in crime, and fellow troublemaker/bro-slayer, Roger Lawson: “When we’re giving training advice to others, it’s easy to take them as they are and tailor our advice to their situation. It’s a lot like being The Terminator: we’re scanning them, taking into account their past experience and current tendencies to give them the best starting point for where they are now. But when it comes to ourselves, that scanner gets jammed and becomes influenced by ego, a sense of entitlement and tales of past glory. Simply put, we think we’re more awesome than we really are. The fastest and most effective way to overcome this hurdle is to repeat the following to yourself anytime you get the urge to go off the deep end: I’m not that special. You don’t need an advanced glycogen depletion training scheme to lose 10lbs and you don’t need to do German Volume Training 5x a week to put on some muscle mass. Create a fictional client whose circumstances strangely mirror your own, and follow the advice you would give to them. There isn’t anything wrong with progressing slower than you might have if you got a bit sexier with your training/nutrition protocols, but there is something wrong with spinning your wheels because you tried something you weren’t ready for and got crushed.” Roger Lawson – www.roglawfitness.com So there we have it. If you suck at taking your own advice, it might be time to drop the ego and get yourself a good coach who can be in charge of the objectivity you may be lacking. What about you? Do you suck at coaching yourself? Update: Martin Berkhan and I were discussing this topic over email and while he was going to contribute, his piece kept getting long and longer. So he wrote an incredible article on the topic here: How To Walk The Talk and Unlock Your True Potential.